When we say face your fears, what is your first reaction? Are you a heck-yes, or a run-in-the-other-direction kind of human?
If you tend to fall into the category that avoids your discomforts and fears, you are not alone. Look around. We have designed lives that offer ultimate comfort and shield us from our fears.
Do not like snakes? Avoid them. Afraid of public speaking? Maybe it is not for you. Have an uncomfortable conversation waiting with a friend or partner? It can wait.
If any of this resonates, we have a challenge for you. Let us reframe our relationship with fear and discomfort this week.
Questions to ask when you feel afraid
Next time fear shows up, try asking yourself:
- What would it feel like to be unafraid of this situation?
- How will I feel on the other side of this fear?
- How is it serving me to avoid this fear? If the cost of addressing a discomfort is greater than the potential benefit, maybe now is not the right time, and that is okay.
- How can I take one step into this fear?
You do not have to do it alone
If you are not sure how to begin moving through a fear, being vulnerable with someone you trust can be a powerful way to start, a friend, a family member, a partner, a coach. A few ways this can sound out loud:
- "This idea is bringing up some fear for me. I am ready to work through it, but I need a little support."
- "I am doing something today that terrifies me. Will you show up for me? Your presence means so much."
- "I have some fears about this. Can I talk them out with you?"
Fears, discomforts, and the harder side of our emotions generally just want to be acknowledged and observed. Once we give them space, we can move through them. Give yourself time to acknowledge your fears as valid, but remember they are not in the driver's seat. You are. The strength on the other side of our fears is infinite.
In gratitude,
Jaime
